Often people can be very ungrateful. Sometimes we dont have much to begin with so we seek out more thinking it will bring us happiness, but we dont realize the lack of confidence we have in what we already had. So the real people make use of what they already have and they are grateful for it, some people are blessed or unblessed to be in a rich or poor family but is it blessed to be in a rich family or blessed to be in a poor family? IT doesnt matter because you can choose your life to be a blessing rather than making it a blessing simply because your life has been chosen for you, if a blessed life is based on having the latest gadgets and a big pool in your garden as well as having a big fat bank account then perhaps your meaning of blessed is being placed of materialism and not your real happiness inside. There are people with very little who came from the bottom and rose to the top simply because they were always grateful. If i find something that had a massive influence on me and that made me a better person should i be grateful inside? Of course!
Are you without money? Are you without love? Are you without friends? Are you without success? Are you without happiness? While all the former may sound good because to some degree we need all of them is the blessing in having them? Yes of course. But is there a blessing sometimes in not having certain things? Of course! We always run around for what we don’t have or what we cant have because sometimes we want more than we already have while forgetting that we don’t appreciate that of what we already have, we SHOULD be grateful for the things we do have because if we are not then when will we ever be grateful?
So what is gratitude, why is it important to have gratitude? gratitude is about appreciating, thanking, enjoying, loving the things we are given or have currently, in some cases we can show gratitude for things we don’t have, lets be serious if we had everything then would we be truly happy or become unappreciated of what the world and this life has given us? Having a attitude of gratitude is all about being grateful and the reason why having gratitude is important is because it makes you friends and it shows you to be a person who is grateful of the little things in life and especially if those little things come from people you know. A Gratitude Attitude can change who you are deep inside, it can really make big changes to your life, it gets you noticed for being the friend that is always there and the friend that makes you feel appreciated.
People with gratitude tend to achieve more and tend to have better friends and people around them who show gratitude back. Feel grateful for who you are, feel grateful for what you are, feel grateful for what you have and feel grateful for the things you have received from others and from the world itself. Have you ever saw something so beautiful it makes you want to be grateful? Have you ever been given something that filled you up with job that made you grateful? Always share your gratitude, trust me, people appreciate it but most of all it makes you feel better for showing it to others and to everything around you.
Can you feel grateful for the amount of confidence you really possess? That may sound silly but having that negative thing in your mind tell you “Why are you doing this, this is stupid” when you could change it “I’m doing this because i want to and it makes me feel good” then you are going to convince yourself that whatever you do even if your giving gratitude for the smallest of things will help you have the life you have always secretly desired. Really just kick out all those negatives in your head that tell you that you must be selfish, that you must not be grateful, that not having this or that is the end of the world because if you don’t have it your having a terrible life. Look around you and enjoy it, do not waste it and do waste the very things around you.
Why is us people are not grateful for what we have right now? Its because we always want better but sometimes wanting something better is not possible and sometimes wanting something more is just a case of us not learning to be happy with a good book and a cup of coffee rather than telling ourselves we must have the latest technology and dvd player to be happy. Be grateful for what you have because if you aren’t then you will only be grateful later for what you HAD and by that time it will be too late to go back because that moment passed. Many of us can agree that we missed some of those friends we had at high school that no longer are with us, some of us lost those friends due to bad luck and some of us lost them due to being ungrateful for the friendship and effort they gave us to keeping the bond there in the first place.
Practice patient, say thanks for the meal someone cooked you, say you appreciate that someone looked out for you, say you are grateful you have the best parents ever. Regardless of how you turned out thank everyone who has made you who you are today because those people all chipped into building the character you have today. Feel grateful today and only you can start loving and enjoying life more than you are now, even others notice this and will begin to appreciate your gratitude as well.
Every time you wake up to the sun shining or the rain pouring down smile and enjoy it, appreciate it! Thanks for reading.
~Jay Rando
Hi, I have discovered your blog from the comments on the theme’ moving from wordpress.com blog to wordpress.org’. I can see you are still on your wordpress.com blog, are you content with your choice? I was also thinking about passing to ‘wordpress.org’ but not sure if it’s worth.. How about your own domain? Thak you for your help, I didn’t know where to post it, hope you don’t mind!
Natalia
Hi Natalia, my belief from what i researched was that a .com is always better for web traffic, business, products or pure blogging. However .org is better for a site that is educational and less business like, a bit like comparing wikipedia to thisismyblogproduct.com… I do have my own websites, i actually chose to go with .coms in the end since there are many deals that allow you to have multiple sub domains within domains i.e you can have several .com domain websites for the price of one.
But more to your question. What i did was bought a .com, at some point i am going to move this blog to a .com if it remains popular and i hit around 1000 visitors per month, apparently 1000 visitors is good for a free WordPress site and is a good time to move over.
When you get your own domain you can always move your current free blog site with WordPress to your own custom domain. It costs a little money so i would advise that if you are a frequent blogger and are considering a future adsense blog/business/product type site i would get a custom domain from host gator, i bought a site on a 50% off deal and saved lots of money.
After that you can choose wordpress to move your current free blog over to that paid custom domain or simply begin from scratch. Any further questions feel free to post in my ‘about/my profile’ section on my blog at the top of my blog page. Good luck
Thanks Jay. Having a look at your blog, this looks like mine’ wordpress. com’ at the end. But it looks like upgraded, am I wrong?
I was thinking of having my own domain and maybe buy an update, to have more functions on my blog; What do you think? Sorry, kind of difficult for me all these technical details.
Custom domain?is this the same as ‘buying your own domain’?? Thanks for your help.
Hi Natalia if you mean’t mine looks upgraded it isn’t but rather i have tweaked some of the free options i get with this theme, my site is still a free wordpress sub domain. The ‘wordpress’ part in your website name means it belongs to wordpress. But when you get your own site obviously the wordpress bit disappears.
If however you get .org you will get all the goodies with it such as access to add ons etc and easy upgrading. If you get .com you will have to do all the updating yourself. However with my current .com that is self hosted (it isn’t this site but another one) it allows wordpress as a ‘template’ even though it is not hosted by wordpress. That means you can still have your current theme on a .com.
‘Custom domain?is this the same as ‘buying your own domain’??’
Yep but by this i meant specifically ‘self hosted’. You can host your own .com (custom) or wordpress can host it for you through org with all those goodies they offer (most of which do cost to buy unfortunately).
The difference? If you do not understand the technical side of website building .org would be your best friend (if you can afford it). If you understand website building or are interested in getting better at it (building a business etc) then get self hosted .com. Sometimes it is better to get to terms with the site if your new to it all. I had to use jayrando.wordpress.com 6-12 months before getting used to it (understanding how it works). Only when i got better at using it did i consider buying my own site. So i suggest if you are new to wordpress to give it a while before buying so you get a feel for the dashboards options etc.
The downside to .org is how much it costs. The downside to .com is that you would have to install all the plugins and edit some of the html coding yourself at times. Of course i chose .com though because i don’t believe it is all that hard to get a self hosted.com and set it all up, its fairly easy. But again this depends on how good with the technical side you are.
I hope this makes some sense and you can feel free to ask any questions whenever you have any. When i first came to buying a site it was quite confusing to me too lol (you are not alone). You will understand it 100% in due time though. Good luck
Thanks Jay, I feel better now
. I really like your blog and maybe I will have to look for another theme too, as yours looks very good! Thanks you for helping me! I will let you know what I decide. Have a nice weekend!
I always write in good detail to make it easier to understand haha. Thanks for the comment too Natalia. Have a great weekend
Talk soon
Also your blog looks awesome, love the ideas you have presented on it. Of all the blogger sites wordpress definitely the best and most easiest interface
Jay are you been buddy I need your inspiration! Great article
Hey Solo thanks for the post and encouragement, i have been away for quite few months but I am thinking of making a comeback at some point in the future, there are some inspiring articles in the works.
Right now i am just sorting out some things related to living issues and coming up to finishing a project so i will probably be back and make a post on my return (what i’ve been up to recently etc). Good to see you are doing good too mate. Keep in touch
Talk soon
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Great article Jay and so true. Whenever hubby and I are having trying times either one of us will pull out “the gratitude list” or just say one thing we are grateful for which leads to much more. Very good way to turn a frown upside down!
Thanks for the comment Jackie, a gratitude list is a great idea. It only makes us appreciate more what we are given and take our focus way from the bad things and focus on the good. There was an experiment done in psychology and that was the people who write down the bad things in a list rather than good things in life are more likely to have a bad week (suppose it makes sense haha). So writing down the good things is both a great and clever way to focus on them sub consciously
Even if you don’t write them down — just think of one thing to be grateful for. When we do that, it always leads to more things!
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